The vacations are approaching! Isn’t it time to celebrate? Not for just anyone. If you are single fearing getting alone during the holidays, ones might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No time period of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to come to be with, things would have been different”, you whisper to help you yourself time and again.
Use the holiday seasons to figure out how not to get alone next year. You might think that such advice can be ridiculous. Why to think about next year when this year’s holidays are approaching? ” simple: if you have been sole for a long time, what guarantee are you experiencing that you will not be single next year as well?
Or you might find away that you haven’t been successful finding a partner until now not considering no “suitable” partner came your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for an individual reason or another); and also that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you ran out with that they terminated their bond; or that you were so controlling and demanding a growing number of of your dates just rejected your attempts to getting closer and maybe even to transferring together.
The secret to make sure you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you wasn’t able to develop a successful closeness so far; what made you fail in your relationships until recently. Is it really so that you just didn’t come across partners who had been good enough for you? Is it seriously so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible for you to develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
Could it really be for which you did all you could to find a partner with whom to cultivate a good relationship but decided not to have luck? Well, all these can serve you as reasons and rationalizations to not getting good results. But is it really the court case? Or could there come to be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that an issue in you hinders and prevents you from which has a successful relationship?
What makes you think that between sometimes a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful bond? If you have been failing for having a wonderful relationship up to now, what are the odds that you will succeed in having one next season?
Using the holidays’ time for them to figure out what are the true factors behind your inability to have a significant, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, can be described as time well-spent. The ideas you’ll gain will provide help to find a suitable partner by means of whom to develop and maintain a successful intimacy.
The odds probably do not job in your favour! Therefore, it can be up to you to do something regarding your situation. Therefore, you may want to use the holidays this year to figure out how to make a change for next year! How can you use this year’s holidays to become able to have a relationship next year?
Using the holidays to think these over might help you understand the true reasons for your failures. You might find, for example, there exists patterns of behaviors of which repeat themselves throughout all your past-relationships which always brought about conflicts between you and your partners.